Vitiligo appears to be a big challenge in marriage prospects but there is a way out.

The search for a life partner is definitely not easy. While some find their ‘the one’ quite early, some have to wait for a long time to find their perfect match. Not only is the search long and tiring, but it also is subject to various criteria and checkboxes that need to be ticked off. We look for someone muscular, someone educationally qualified, a well-earning individual, an honest man, a strong woman and so much more!

We also look for people who do NOT possess certain qualities. Society has often defined beauty based on orthodox and mainstream standards. And unfortunately, these standards still prevail. The presence of a skin condition often becomes a reason why people choose to not marry a person with vitiligo. 

However, situations are not too grim. And it is not impossible to find a partner. There are wonderful men and women out there who do not care what your skin looks like and will see you as a compatible partner!

Will my partner be at risk because of my vitiligo?

No, not at all!

Be rest assured that your partner is at no risk of harm because of vitiligo. The skin condition is completely non-contagious, and non-infectious. It does spread through any forms of touch, sexual intercourse or sharing of clothes or daily grooming products. You, as a person with vitiligo, will not feel irritation or discomfort in your skin if you are touched by anyone else. 

Physical intimacy often forms a vital part of a loving relationship. It is very normal to feel worried about vitiligo and feel less confident about your skin. However, once you embrace it, you will start feeling positive about your body. Conversations with your partner about your skin insecurities will help you understand your needs better and help your partner understand them as well.

Does this mean I should talk about my condition openly with my partner?

Definitely!

A conversation like this can be a definitive factor in your relationship. Not only will this help you feel more connected to your partner, but it will also help him or her get to know your needs better. A strong relationship is based on honesty and trust. This simple conversation will encourage openness and positive conflict resolution. Your partner will be happy to realize that you trust him or her with a sensitive topic like this.

You must not burden your partner all of a sudden with overwhelming facts. Choose a non-stressful time, find a comfortable place and relaxing environment and bring up the topic. Be real and truthful. It is better to speak about yourself truthfully now. There are high chances your partner might find out about your condition by themselves in the future. Why be a part of such a stressful conflict, when you can have a healthy talk now? 😀

But what if my partner leaves me after hearing about my condition?

Firstly, breathe. Secondly, look at the bigger picture

A conversation about your skin condition is not a daily update. It will take immense courage on your part to open up and speak about yourself. And in situations like these, when you see your partner get up and walk by, yes, it’ll feel like the world’s crashing.

There can be two perspectives on this. To know that someone I am dating has vitiligo can be overwhelming. Give your partner some space and time to regather his or her thoughts. Let them understand more about it, and give them the time to think. People do not walk away because they don’t want to deal with the situation at all. They are simply not strong enough to deal with it at that moment. Give them the time they need, and a good man or woman will surely come back to you.

However, often things might turn more bitter and your partner might choose to end your relationship. The reasons and the justifications behind them could be plenty. However, as difficult and traumatic as this situation could be, you must look at the silver lining. It is better to be away from a person who perceives your entire identity to be attached to your skin condition. Look around and the world is filled with people who will see YOU and not your skin! ❤️‍

Wouldn’t it be better if I just stayed single?

It is your choice and yours alone. But do you really think that spending the whole life alone is easy?

Why choose to be away from happiness simply because of your skin condition? It is not the definition of your personality and not the ultimate reality of your existence. It is simply a part of you. Do not base your choices on the comments of the world. 

If you’re happy being single, go ahead and live your life! If you’re in search of a partner and want to get married, do not let anything stop you, especially not your vitiligo!

How do I find someone who’ll understand my vitiligo?

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